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Collision Perspective

May 14, 2017 Speaker: Dan Davis Series: Collision Course

Topic: Sunday Message Verse: Romans 12:18, Colossians 3:12–3:14, Romans 12:18–12:19, Philippians 4:6–4:7

Collision Perspective

The second of eight messages in a series about how we can navigate the relational conflicts we face in life

Defining Peace

Relational peace is more than just the elimination of tension and the absence of conflict; it’s also the presence of relational health.

Romans 12:18 NIV

18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

Resolving Conflict: Our Normal Path

The first step we need to take in dealing with conflict is not the first step we usually take. Here's our normal path...

THEM – “It’s all their fault”
ME – “I know I’m right”
GOD – “Show them they’re wrong”

It is so easy, when you’re in a conflict, to keep dwelling on it. Conflict has such a downward magnetic pull, that if you’re not careful it’ll suck you right in mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. And then that other person you’re in conflict with? They’re all you think about it, and they essentially take over your life.

Resolving Conflict: God's Better Plan

GOD
ME
THEM

What if we flipped the order where God is our first stop, not our last resort? When we first look up to God instead of dwelling on our conflict, it will dramatically change our perspective in a couple, very significant ways.

A God-First Perspective in Conflict

You are not your conflict.
Your relational conflict doesn't have to define your life. Jesus has so much more for you than that.

"You Are Not Your Conflict," so...

1. Embrace your identity in Christ
The anger, fear, worry, and sadness that surround your conflict are not you who are as a Christian. This is what God says of you: you are chosen, you are holy, and you are dearly loved.

Colossians 3:12 NIV

12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.

"You Are Not Your Conflict," so...

2. Pursue your better life as a Christian.
Instead of letting your life be ruled by “anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language” (Col. 3:8), we are to clothe ourselves with Christlike character qualities like "compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience." Because we have experienced the love and forgiveness of the Lord, we are now able to express that to others in a way that we've never been able to before.

Colossians 3:12-14 NIV

12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

A God-First Perspective in Conflict

You are not alone in your conflict.
While conflict can make us feel so isolated, we need to know that God is with us every step of the way.

"You Are Not Alone in Your Conflict," so...

1. Let go of revenge
We need to trust God to take care of all the injustice and unfairness in our conflicts. He is far more qualified than we could ever be to handle everything in His perfect ways and timing. So we need to look up and let go.

Romans 12:18-19 NIV

18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.

"You Are Not Alone in Your Conflict," so...

2. Hold on in prayer
God invites us to bring every situation to Him in prayer, even the most conflicted ones. “Present your requests to God,” Paul says. And when we do, God promises to pour out His peace upon our hearts and our minds…to deeply minister to “what we feel” and “what we think.”

Philippians 4:6-7 NIV

6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Next Step

As you work through a particular relational conflict, make God your first stop, not your last resort. What's one of the ways you can do that this week? Instead of letting your conflict define you, embrace your identity in Christ. Pursue your better life as a Christian. If you feel all alone in your conflict, look up to God and let go of revenge. Hold on in prayer and trust Him to handle it. Go ahead. Invite God into your conflict--don't leave Him out.

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